You know the scenario: boyfriend either just breaks-up, out of the blue or he cheats and then breaks-up, leaving you a heartbroken and in a mess. Until you get to the anger stage, making him feel jealous seems to be such a fantastic way to get him on the track. To harm him, the Evil Ex Boyfriend, might make you feel happy, but is it really the right thing to do?

There are many types of revenge, from the extreme of posting naked blown-up photos of the ex on a billboard or sleeping with his best friend. If the relationship was physically or emotionally abusive, some psychologists encourage you towards the more minor petty revenge, like stealing one sock from each pair in the drawer. They say it helps release the anger so that you can move on. There are people whom you can hire to 'pretend' they're the ex, so that you can get it out of your system without directly dealing with your ex. It may not sound practical but it does work.

Many a times when you are on the verge of your venture of taking revenge, you might end up patching with your ex. Also if that sounds as a much better option to you than taking revenge, "The Magic of Making Up" is the best available option for you. It will help you in the best possible way to resolve your differences and start afresh with your relationship.

Most revenge are not taken, but kept in their fantasy form. It's great to picture his shock at how fantastic you look a few weeks from now, with him begging to get you back. The same wonderful you he threw aside callously. Imagine the satisfaction of seeing his reaction when you blow him off. You can even add tears, if needed, on his side this time. Oh yes! Doesn’t that sound really relaxing?

Are you familiar with the term 'a boiler bunny?' It comes from the film Fatal Attraction, after Glen Close's character, Alex. It is used specifically for psychotic, vengeful ex-girlfriends. After looking at some sites, it's definitely a good term. The worst I found was buying crabs on-line and infesting the ex's bed or tighty-whiteys. That is taking things much too far, destructively so. How would that really make you feel better after finding out your ex cheated on you? I mean, really?

Not to mention all of the time you spend plotting and planning, while going through lonely tissues, you could be spending it on a much more important person: you. The best revenge is the one fantasized about and tossed to the curb, along with the memories of him. Focusing on yourself is one of the best things about break-ups. You now get to reinvent, revisit and delight in life. Take up new hobbies or get back to old ones. Keep yourself busy, not with thoughts of how good his head would look on a stick but how good you'd look in that little black number he hated you wearing.

In the end, we all prefer different ways to conclude our revenge. Just don't forget that once something is done, you can't take it back. Weigh out whether it truly will make you feel better or worse when you're finished. And revenge or no revenge, you'll still need to move on

Get Him to Come Hither and Stay When you keep choosing Mr. Not Even Close to Right, over and over again, or you're such a painfully shy person you can't even approach Mr. Maybe, isn't it time for you to take action? In How to Attract Men, Amy Waterman clearly explains how to alter your own head and your heart, so that you can steal his. Making new choices will give you the chance to find exactly what and who you've been looking for: the man who is worthy of you, and willing to make the effort to prove it.