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Having a steady boyfriend may make you go on regular dates with your boyfriend. Sometimes, you may find your boyfriend’s friends also hanging out with him. It is quite normal for you to feel shy when you first meet them. You tend to feel self conscious and have a low self-esteem around them. Sometimes you may also find it difficult to strike a conversation, which will help in breaking the ice.
There is no need of making huge adjustments in yourself to befriend your boyfriend’s friends. All that you need are some social skills which you have to learn, practice and use in getting new friends. A smile is the best thing you could do to break the ice between all your boyfriend’s friends. When smiling, make it look as if you were pleased to meet the person, regardless of whether you like them or not.
Make sure you make and maintain eye contact with everyone in your boyfriend’s friends circle when talking to them. Once you start looking somewhere else, it indicates that you are looking for some there friends, or that you are not interested in befriending these friends.
Once you meet your boyfriend’s friends, you have to introduce yourself. Tell them your name, what you do and where you study or work. This introduction helps start a conversation with these friends where he or she may slowly introduce themselves too. Don’t wait for them to make the first introduction if you are ready with it.
If you were seating before your boyfriend and his friends approach you, it is important that you stand up when they come to you. When you stand, you can engage the person in conversation while on the same level. If you remain seated, and don’t stand when they come, it indicates that you don’t think your boyfriends’ friends are important to you.
Offering and accepting handshakes will help you get to know your boyfriend’s friends better. You can tell who is confident and at ease in your friends’ circle. It is the person who first stretches handshakes that is considered to be confident and ease. Today even men and women shaking hands are accepted in society; so you needn’t hesitate in shaking hands with everyone.
Once you are formally introduced to your boyfriends’ friends, you have to behave like your boyfriend would prefer you to behave with them. You could hang around them when they go out to the pub, trips or rides and just enjoy. However if your boyfriend does not particularly like you physically mixing much with the guys in the group like slapping on the back and holding hands and stuff, you might as well refrain from all this.
You could instead learn about the different hobbies and pastimes of his friends, and your boyfriend’s hobbies and follow these hobbies when together. Once you mingle with your boyfriend’s friends, you no longer find it uncomfortable with them. Remember that it is usually starting problems that obstruct you from mixing and adjusting with your boyfriend’s friends. Once you overcome these obstacles, you find no problem in mixing with them.
About the Author
Bob Grant, L.P.C. is widely recognized as a leading expert on relationships. As a professional Coach for over 14 years, he has helped hundreds of clients in goal achievement. In addition to his hit book, "The Woman Men Adore… And Never Want To Leave." Bob has also been a frequent quest on the radio program, "Marriage and Family Today," in Atlanta, Ga. www.relationshipheadquarters.com
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